First, I gathered the courage to ask my boss if I could attend a conference that's technically related to my employment but in reality would provide me with professional opportunities outside of my 9-5 work (and he understood that as well). I also asked if, um, they'd pay for it. Not only did he say YES he said they would also pay for my transportation!
"Sweet," I thought and happily filled out the travel request form, adding the conference fee to the fee for taking the train to the conference. Only after it had been filled out and sent in did I realize I actually had to pay for the costs upfront and wait to be reimbursed. "Use a credit card," they said, "it will be paid off before you even get the bill." Haha. Not happening.
I was happy to get the day off to attend and even happier that they will eventually pick up the check but I hadn't really worked the numbers before asking. I CAN pay for this but it's going to put a real damper on Boyfriend's Birthday Weekend plan. I value my career over my relationship (is that bad?) so I know when something has to come first, it's me, but I feel extremely bad that I told Boyfriend I would pay for a hotel that he booked when it looks like I really won't be able to now.
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hmmm it is interesting. First off, why did you promise your bf for the hotel while you are soooo broke?He could get him something small but special.Secondly, if you promise then you must fullfill it.Also comparing your bf with your career is not a good idea. Totally two different concept to me. What I would in your situation? I would charge on my CC and make sure to get reimbursement on time. and fullfill my promise to bf. and I would think more carefully next time I promise for something especially someone special.
I meant to sya you could get him something special :)
Yes well unfortunately I don't have that much available on my credit card right now. I do get paid the day after the conference so maybe I can write a check. I don't know of they take checks at the door though.
As for the promise, I'm not sure what I actually committed myself to doing but I know we are going away and staying in a hotel so since it's his birthday I assumed I would pay but he already booked it on his card. Maybe I can tell him to wait a week and I can pay all or most of it back.
It's extremely fustrating because he gave me really nice things for my birthday and I wanted to reciprocate a little.
I see. Ok then this is what you can do. Write a check to your bf for future date when you expect to have money. and you can tell him the check is for the hotel.I do that to my hubby sometime. I say "Honey I really want to buy this to you but at this moment I dont have enough funds. Can you deposit this check "insert date future date" I feel good and he feels good.
That IS a good idea, except I did that months ago for $300 that I needed to pay my rent and I STILL haven't let him deposit it. Ugh. I may bargain and pay for one night at the hotel instead of two. Thanks for your ideas though!
Ok.I dont want to look like I am lecturing but pleaseeee dont damage his trust towards you. Your priority should be the first check you gave it to him,$300. Make sure he gets that first. Girl, I can not believe that you borrowed money from him months ago and havent paid yet, and promised for hotel.
Sigh, yes I know. He never even remembers it but it haunts me. I want to pay it back SO bad but I need to pay down the stupid payday loans first. I told him recently that I should have that money by July.
Maybe instead of a hotel weekend, you do a special weekend at home, could be a heck of a lot cheaper until you get a better grasp on your finances. I agree with chicky, you have to be careful what you promise folks, not just your boyfriend.
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